It can be so easy to get mentally caught up in our trauma and past abuses, letting those things of our past define us. It can be so easy to feel like everything you are today, everything you've become, your anxiety, your fear, your failure, is a direct result of what happened to you. It's [...]
I saw a post on my BPD Facebook page about Self-Care Toolboxes that I think will be a wonderful addition to my own arsenal against the disorder! Apparently you get yourself a beautiful box and add all these little things into it that can distract you or cheer you up in times when you're feeling [...]
Anger is an emotion that is easily seen, and an emotion that seems to be seen as more acceptable than other emotions, such as depression. But most of the time anger is just the tip of the ice berg, being fueled by a combination of emotions hidden underneath, and sometimes we use anger to mask [...]
I think one of the hardest things about BPD is feeling like you care more about other people than they do about you. You give your time to them, listen to them, offer advice and a shoulder to lean on, try your best to listen and comfort them, but then when you need any form [...]
It's been a while since I posted, I've been pretty busy since I started at my new job. I always thought once I started working I'd feel more complete, getting my drivers license and work has been my 2 major goals for a long time. I haven't got my license yet, my anxieties, fears and [...]
I use to be the kind of person where a simple look, a simple tone, that I perceived as negative would not only affect my whole day, but also make me obsessively ruminate about it for days and spark a depression cycle that would go downhill, dragging my self-esteem, my self-worth and overall hope along [...]
Living with this fear of abandonment is so hard, they say we're not our mental illness, but it's so hard to separate the two; me, and my illness. For example I've had this one friend I've known for 16 years, we've been on and off friends that whole time, sometimes we're great, like family, and [...]
Does anyone else struggle with indecisiveness? I'm currently studying and doing work placement, one day I'll be feeling like 'Yep, this job is for me! I can do this! For the first time ever I actually know what I want to do! Yay!'.....next day I'm dragging my feet thinking ' I can't do this, what [...]
I think a lot of the problems we have with having BPD is accepting who we are. I can't speak for everyone of course, only for myself, but I've found one of the hardest things to deal with is my lack of identity. I tend to switch and swap and change my "personality" depending on [...]
Sometimes when I feel angry or depressed I want to reach out to people in my life or online to express my feelings, my anger, my sadness or frustration. It's like this overwhelming need to be heard, understood, and validated. The problem with this you can't get true validation from others, validation is like a [...]
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